Love ~ I am in, or when was the last time I've been in ...

well i'm so sorry if my previous post kinda made you feel uncomfortable, i didn't mean at all to scold you or something. I've been in that situation too, many years ago. I had a crush on one girl and she rejected me, and it took a long time to feel normal again towards that girl. In the meantime, whenever i met her, i couldn't bring out my smile... sad, actually.

 

LOL. in this case, you just have to work your part as fast as you can and get away from him. and why didn't you make something up as an excuse? i thought you don't like being near him...

 

Just do what you have to do and think only of your duty

 

Yup right. Professionals always have their jobs done, no matter what the situations are.
Ganbatte, girl

 

this thread has been going well, thanks for all your contributions and advice everyone!!

i've been out on hiatus for a few weeks, but i am back to contribute, maintain my threads.

You sure have a lot to deal with day in and day out with facing him, and i know it is difficult for you to try to act as professional as you can, while dealing with a lot of discomfort and ill feelings while he is near, but sometimes we have to deal with these diffiicult situations to get to a better place. To me, it shows strength when someone like you can endure this, perserve through it, and reach your goals, and ultimately finding what you are looking for in a relationship, love, and having your career. All we ask is you do your best and do what you can, ganbatte ne!!

 

Yes you can do it. I know so too. Because i know that you have all the determination you need to face him, right inside your heart.

 

think AKB48 POWER and all the support from your friends here at S48, Ganbatte ikimashoi!!

 

This is pretty pathetic. Today is 1 year since I was dumped. I'm not crying at all. I don't know if I want to cry, but it still feels wrong.

 

it always will feel wrong, being the one dumped, being put in a position where you were betrayed and let down, it just plain hurts!!
i am sure you have had your fair share of crying, and let it out....1 yr is a long time to reflect, to grow, and perserve thru the hard times. I am sure you dealt with a lot, and have learned a lot as well from your experiences. hopefully you grew stronger, and your heart has healed and you learn to forgive, most importantly so you can be receptive to a new and better love, learning to trust with your heart, smartly, and openly. Trust takes time to build, but once you find someone worthy of that love, there is no limit. best of luck. thanks for sharing....feel free to post more.

its been close to 3 years for me, since my last break up...in April '05. I have learned a lot since then, and got thru the tough times...all i can say now is that i am more than ready, for love and a new relationship!

 

Ange, as haruna says, "do as you like", if you feel the need to share, whatever, that is what we are here for, each other. **hug**
same with you Haruna, Kyu...

thanks for your support, and contributions.

**update**

well, i put it to rest....my situation.
in regards to this girl. its been less and less contact, and despite texting her out of kindness, once on valentines day, and then on her birthday a week later, she did however give a courtesy text but nothing more. I begin to think that this was truly not going to work. I felt more and more not wanting to continue this and not pursue her. We had agreed to meet up again as we discussed earlier in the month,weeks later...and finally the week arrived, but decided to call it off. I gave it some serious thought and decided to end it on my terms with her. This in no way is a breakup since the so-called interaction she and i had was nothing more than a few casual dates, and nothing close to exclusivity. So a simple text i felt was suffice. I basically turned her down and felt that at this point there was nothing significant between us. I didn't want to waste my time, and hers. Clearly it was obvious that her intention was "just friends" as i felt no intensity, no strong interest on her part. I did feel that i gave a good impression, but we are not seeking the same goals here. Her lack of receptivity, her lack of excitment, her lack of motivation in dating me, lead me to this decision where i felt the need to move on. I feel no bad feelings towards her, and i don't think that i could have persuade her to have a stronger interest in me to evolve into a relationship, i just didn't think the necessary pieces, the right chemistry was within us to ever reach something special. I was willing to take a chance with her, but i didn't feel any reciprocation from her. I always felt her schedule, her priorities were elsewherre. Rightfully so, we were never "us", and i respect that she has her life and schedule, BUT, when you are dating someone, there should be some level of interest enough to reciprocate atleast on some level. I felt nothing from her, if anything. I honestly do not feel bad in my decision to move on. I felt confident in my action and feel it is for the best. If she so desires to want a friendship, i am not sure if i would honor that since my intention is to date, not just friends, afterall we did meet, date intially through a dating website. I do feel disappointed at the outcome, but that is life, and i am remaining hopeful and will continue the dating process. Thanks for hearing me out these past few months. It was interesting to say the least, and i did put out a good effort, and i don't have any regrets, just another disappointment, but i am sure i have learned from it. I have a lot ahead of me, not just in terms of dating, but with my upcoming trip and move. I think i know my priorities, but i also know i will take the dating risks if i feel they are good risks.

 

Ermm.. it's kinda vague but..
If you are confused about your own feelings, and you think the other is kinda confused too..
And it is near impossible to seriously ask, or confess
Is there a way to test?
Or maybe hint?

 

^ Oh, you use the classic "what would happen if....?"

 

what would happen if i did nothing????????????

nothing would happen, as the case with ME.

basically as i posted above, i turned her down, and basically saw no possible continuation and ended it, and well, in essencse did nothing to pursue her further.

but only differernce is, i AM not confused about my feelings, since i have none for her, it didn't amount to anything really.

take the plunge, go for it, if both of you are unsure, and confused, one of you has got to do something, sometimes doing nothing, it will dissapate on its own, and dissolve to nothing as in my CASE. well, i did turn her down, i guess that is something, like a nothing-something something.

 

this thread has been quiet, so i also don't have much to offer or provide...

i've been focusing on other things in my life, and dating, atleast for now has taken a backseat while i prerpare for my vacation and my move. I will continue with the dating website that i have a membership on, but i am thinking of looking into a few others.
if anyone else has anything to share, by all means, please do, and post some.

 

Im currently in M.U with someone =)